When I was a senior at high school, I had a Brazilian exchange student live with me for three months. On the first day at school, all the girls had a crush on him. I soon realized one word summed it all up: “ When I was in university, I dated a Brazilian girl for two weeks but I didn’t bother to learn any Portuguese. I also learned heaps from her about Ghanaian culture, food, dance, and more. I went on some dates where we spent most of time in silence. Here are my favourites: One of the best parts about dating someone in your target language is that you can learn the real life experiences and not from a boring textbook.
Also, if you’re immersed in the country, having a local partner can be dangerous because when you go out, he or she does all the work. When you go to a restaurant, they do all the ordering.
While this is convenient, it does NOT help you improve your language skills.
Learning from your partner can create an interesting dynamics between you (the student) and your partner (the teacher).
If your partner is not a certified teacher, they may not be confident and comfortable helping you with the language.
For example, the more I learn Vietnamese, the more I swear in Vietnamese. You may also discover some things about your partner only when you fully understand the language and culture.
With a partner who speaks your target language, you have a teacher available to answer your questions 24/7.
With a partner, there’s no hiding from your language learning. If you take a week off, you’ll be in the dog house!
In addition to accountability you’ll get more exposure to your target language.
Maybe she wants to learn your native language, so you end up doing some sort of language exchange. Dating someone in your target language forces you and your partner to develop patience.