People ask me all the time whether I offer dating and relationship coaching for single men. But I tell them that I help men by helping women who are dating after 40. ) One of the most transformational ways I support women is by helping you better understand GROWNUP men.
Just like women, the men you’re dating have lived and learned.
The Sexpot offers herself up on the first date and is offended if her date doesn’t partake. Relationship-minded men may also say “yes” even though they may feel somewhat emasculated or turned off by her aggressiveness.
The wall she has erected is just too high for him to climb in order to get to the other side.
Since trust and affection are what men yearn for from women, he usually does her a favor and leaves…hence rendering her “right” once again.
So the only way you really can empathize is to know their side of the story.
Men and women are different in many ways, but we’re more the same than you may think. We all have dating disappointments and horror stories.
he Scaredy Cat has been emotionally wounded by men in the past, and she can’t let go of it.
She mistrusts men and often blames herself for the rejection she’s felt, believing that she just wasn’t good enough.
The Wow Me Woman is often single for a very, very long time.
The Bitter Gal is angry — usually about everything, but especially about men. A guy never has a chance, even he is the nicest guy in the world and really likes her.
The 18 year old dates – sometimes a lot – but she doesn’t have relationships because “she doesn’t want the men who want her, and the men she wants don’t want her.” She doesn’t know what will make her happy and has not yet learned how to communicate and relate to grownup men.
By default she clings to the same type of guy she wanted in high school or college. (See the Wow Me Woman below.) The nice, relationship-minded men get quickly discarded by the 18 year old.
It doesn’t occur to her that she might be the problem even though every date and relationship seems to end the same way.