So, let's all get over it, get educated, and help END the outdated stigma.
Whose burden is it to bring up this discussion, anyway?
Shouldn't someone who believes that they don't have any STDs or viruses and wants to stay that way be asking questions as well?
Either can be genital, or transmitted to others as such.
Most have absolutely no idea they have it, because HSV is usually mild or asymptomatic - and it is NOT included in "complete" STD testing.
And I will do everything within reason to protect myself, but I will not let it take over my life.
Going through an episode of herpes on your boy or lady parts, however mild and unlikely to recur, is no fun for anyone.If they have sexual contact with someone without any kind of discussion beforehand, believing that a condom during intercourse is all it takes to be safe, then whose fault is it if they manage to get HSV?Knowing that the majority of the population is uneducated and doesn't even know that cold sores are actually causes by a herpesvirus, and they don't know if they have this virus or not, does the burden fall to those who do know, just because they took the time to get educated? Not even doctors choose to take on that burden, as they and the rest of society encourage herpes ignorance.(although some people do get infected in both areas at the time of exposure, since their bodies haven't built up antibodies yet.)In a perfect world, however, both those who have a history of cold sores AND those who have had a genital episode of type 1 will be open and discuss it before being intimate.But a conversation like that pretty much goes against all your instincts when it comes to how to behave in the bedroom, so no matter what our best intentions are, many will choose to not address it.I had managed to somehow get through life without having been exposed to type 1, something I had never really pondered or thought about.