Clinical studies have been carried out that assessed the intelligence of people after being asked to relive a particularly painful memory.It seems that the feeling of rejection and the emotional pain it causes is enough to fog rational thinking and actually reduce a person’s IQ, especially when it comes to short-term memory tasks and particularly decision-making.
Rejection plays a big part in all walks of life and online dating, like every other relationship, isn’t all flowers and butterflies all of the time.
Yet, like many before me have said, it isn’t the rejection you should focus on, but the way you deal with it and rebound.
If you are new to online dating, being aware of rejection will help you in the process.
Don’t let the fear of rejection hamper your activity in dating or life in general but accept that rejection is just a fact of life.
You berate yourself for disclosing your fascination with sea urchins, for ordering noodle soup and making slurping noises, or for joking about how you got the scar on your middle finger.
All this self-punishment makes you feel utterly miserable and you wonder when you became so weak, needy, or desperate.And if they give you the, “It’s not you, it’s me,” speech — believe them.In fact, even if they don’t, assume it’s them nonetheless.It’s important to keep this in mind if you are ever going through a tough time – you have the right to feel this way.Our evolution and tribal nature has allowed our brains to develop strong signals to avoid the likelihood of rejection.You must be, otherwise you wouldn’t hurt so much, right? Here’s why: Recent studies placed people in f MRI machines (scanners that look at what happens in our brains when we’re thinking or doing something) and asked them to think about a painful and recent rejection. The same pathways in the brain became activated when people experienced a rejection as when they experienced physical pain.