Anyone been in a similar situation and learned from it, either positive or negative? ” — Troubled By His Past What I hear you saying is that you’re concerned that Mark is around 40 and hasn’t been married yet, right?
And his apparent serial monogamy seems to be part of your concern, as if it says something about his ability to commit that he’s been able to find women he likes enough to date for multiple years but can’t “pull the trigger,” so to speak.
To stigmatize someone for making their best possible life choice, a choice that hurts nobody, seems ridiculous, especially in light of the divorce and affair rate.”Courtney, a most eligible 36-year-old bachelorette in Manhattan, dismisses any such stigma. “Never-married men over 40 are no different than unmarried men in their 30s or 20s.
But I wondered: As marriage inches toward the take-it-or-leave-it category — for both sexes — and there are more never-married men between the ages of 40 and 44 than ever before (20.4 percent at last census count), is being a perpetual (hetero) bachelor still considered a little … “You can always judge a guy by what’s in his refrigerator,” she says.
“Literally all he had in his was a pint of vanilla Häagen-Daz.
But what if I’m being treated great and the relationship feels right – he wants to spend a lot of time together, but doesn’t come across needy/clingy, plans fun things to do, makes me a priority and makes a genuine effort to figure out what I want/need in order to be happy and provide it for me, seems willing to do work in a relationship, curious about my life and past but not too nosy, not critical or judgmental, doesn’t seem to need or want drama, has stated some things he’s learned and ways he’s more mature now than he used to be.
In short, there are no red flags in the present — only in the past.
This all has us reminiscing about those early seasons and wondering what the couples are up to now.
Most importantly, who are they seeing and what are their relationship statuses?Definitely not, says Carl Weisman, the guy who literally wrote the book on men who never marry, , I’d probably still be single, which would have been fine too,” he says.The choice not to marry, whether by a man or a woman, is a life choice made by a rational human being. All types, all ages, but she was always wary of the guys over 40 who’d never been married. Monica O’Neal, a Harvard-trained psychologist in Boston. “Until men reach age 37, they remain very good prospects.A city, she says, “with a high number of eligible (meaning ’good catches’ on paper), never-married people ranging in age from mid 30s to late 40s.”Indeed most guys approaching 40 who’ve never been married are likely to stay that way — according to a not-so-scientific study conducted by author John T. After age 38, the chances they will ever marry drop dramatically. If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected](be sure to read these guidelines first). I saw an article the other day about “what his romantic past says about him,” and it echoed some of the concerns I have about the history of the guy I’ve been seeing for a couple of months (let’s call him “Mark”).