Many of us have not had a great deal of choice in where we live.
This can leave us unfulfilled in our personal lives if we don’t have enough in common with the people in our proximity.
What we see, who we are around, what we are exposed to, and where we live can dictate our perspectives in life.
Or you may not yet have the emotional resources to move but are desperately wanting to connect to a different locale than the one you are in now.
In dating someone outside of the direct area where you live, you may just find need the right motivation you need to make the change and seek out a new location that fits a more updated “you”.
Living in a coastal city builds exposure to alternative cultural influences like specialty foods, diverse people, and attitudes to spirituality.
Living in a midwest small town grants access to established customs, traditional lifestyles, and close knit community values.
You may identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgendered and are living in a rural community in which there are few resources, a minimum of like minded individuals or intolerant attitudes which get in the way of finding love.
In that case, look at dating someone from a big city with a more liberal lifestyle.You slip on your shoes and leave your ear buds at home, just in case.As you are walking, you notice the pissed off looking guy, the one standing outside the tattoo shop smoking his daily cigarette and you make a wide berth around him.While it is important to get therapeutic help with boundary issues, it can also be very helpful to start out dating someone who lives in a different place.There is a built in immediate physical boundary that guards against over-involvement early on, letting you practice setting boundaries.Deflated, you pay for your coffee and head out, realizing that none of the people with whom you interact daily are ever going to be true love interests. If so, you may want to consider putting in a word with some non locals.