"Always waiting for the guy to initiate contact is annoying to most men," says Harold, 35."At some point you need to let him know you're interested by reaching out.
However, it doesn’t represent women’s preferences at all. Now that we don't need to do that we're going for younger men.
So maybe there is a kernel of truth the rule, at least for men. Literally, we are choosing physical attraction over security because we now have options that never existed for us before.
A common rule of thumb, at least on the internet, is that it’s okay to be interested in someone According to this rule, it would not be creepy for a 30 year old to date a 22 year-old, but an 18 year-old would be off-limits.
Although this is a fun rule of thumb, what does research say about age preferences for potential mates?
So a 10-year old man can only date women 12 or older? A 80-year old man and a 47 -year old woman would definitely raise some questions too.
I say it only applies to men because it is generally more socially common for men to date somewhat younger women (as in the above examples) but not the other way around. Though there are all kinds of exceptions and contrary examples, I know I know. Odd that I'd never heard of this rule before, but maybe there's something too it.
Examples: If a guy is 30, he could date a 22-year-old without too many odd looks.
But an 18-or 19-year od would probably get him some looks.
The findings above represent people’s mate preferences; but what about age differences in actual relationships?