In the chapter ‘One of the President’s Men’, in which she dissects her on/off romance with a White House staffer, she writes: “…
We will often run fast and hard when we feel like we’re being boxed into something we don’t want or is too premature.
So, what’s the resolution for you if calling him your boyfriend and yourself his girlfriend means a lot to you?
Then one day, out of nowhere, he stopped returning my texts. It took a while for me to accept that this was the reality of the situation, and my initial response was, “Sh*t! ” This is not because I think so highly of myself that I can’t handle rejection, but simply because I always thought I was savvy enough to spot the douchebags a mile off.
Sadly, however, my story is in no way unique, and most of my girlfriends have more depressing tales to tell.
These extremely important attributes are the ones that will ultimately be critical in helping you hook us.
But in the beginning the number-one attribute is what you look like and how well you take care of yourself.
Always.” Essentially it’s just an update on the Miranda Hobbs “He’s just not that into you” train of thought. So if you have the misfortune of facing a romantic dilemma in 2016 remember Mindy’s simple dating truth, and hopefully you’ll save yourself a lot of anguish.
There’s a big misperception that men never want to be in committed relationships if we can help it, and that we prefer to have the freedom to date a harem of women. We want to be in a committed relationship, but it has to be with the right woman at the right time. Men don’t want to feel like they’re being hooked, especially in the beginning of a relationship.
Understanding the basics of how we think in this situation will go a long way toward producing the results that you desire.
So don’t judge what follows as being politically incorrect or rude. I’m not saying that we need to get into your pants right away in order to enjoy your company.
This has something to do with our innate desire for freedom and our need to feel like we’re in control.